Welcome to this edition of WTF Wednesday, where the advice is made with 100% real ingredients in mind.
This week’s question comes from author DC McMillen (@mcmillendc), owner of the blog e-rotica.
She writes,
Dear IBMP,
When is it appropriate to purposely embarrass your children in public?
Since I’m a blogger I’m more qualified to give my opinion than, say, experts. But many questions are best answered with, “Well, that depends.” Those answers require sufficient waffling to ensure all my bases are covered.
There are times, however, when the answer is so clear cut that no waffling is required. This is one of those times.
When is it appropriate to purposely embarrass your children in public? Any chance you get. It’s that simple.
As I have described in the past, the need to embarrass our children is built into our DNA. It’s as much a part of parenting as complaining about our children’s music. You don’t waste energy contemplating the appropriate time to ask your daughter if she really plans on going out dressed like that; you just fire it off without the unnecessary burden of conscious restraint. This is pretty much the same thing.
I did extensive research to determine whether there is a time that would be inappropriate for embarrassing one’s children and, when I finished my beer, concluded that there simply is not such a time.
Keep in mind, however, that even though it’s instinctual, embarrassing your children can often benefit from a little planning. Here are a few planning tips:
- Keep an eye out for calls for volunteers at the school. There are loads of opportunities to embarrass your kids and look great in front of your neighbors at the same time. One of the most powerful embarrassment opportunities is the middle school dance. Chaperone that and you’re golden.
- With a little planning, and perhaps some strategic eavesdropping, you can “accidentally” run into your daughter at the mall. Try and plan it so you bump into her at the food court; that’s where she’s most likely to be hanging with the boy she’d least like to meet you.
- Social media provides all kinds of great opportunities to embarrass your child. Make sure to learn the basics of Facebook and Twitter, and comment on everything they say and do. Use handles like “Billie’sDaddy” or “ILoveMySchnookums”.
- Plan ahead. Way ahead. The smart parent ensures that they continue to embarrass their children even after they’re dead. It’s as simple as including in your will the reasons your son’s cat got all the money and your son got your Beanie Baby collection.
With just a little bit of effort and planning, you can be the embarrassing parent that you’ve always strived to be.
Problem solved. You’re welcome!
I’m quite sure our readers have some tips of their own, so let’s hear ’em…
leatierney
March 14, 2012
I believe its fair enough for a parent to exercise their right to embarass their children. By all means go right ahead. But, and its a big but, be prepared. They will bide their time but one day when they are better armed you may find they go on and embarass you back. They may even start up a blog in homage to all the daft things you do and say. Enjoy it while it lasts parents :))))
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
March 14, 2012
Hahaha! I know you’re right. How? Because it’s already been happening! I did a post (it’s in the archives somewhere) in which I asked my son to give me his top reasons why kids embarrass their parents. His number 1: Payback! And he’s only 10…
Sonel
March 14, 2012
Gosh! Where were you when I needed these tips? LOL! Now my boys are all grown up and laughs at me embarassing myself! hehehehe
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
March 14, 2012
Hey it’s never too late to embarrass your kids! Come on, get back in the game! 😉
Sonel
March 14, 2012
Whahahahahah! I’ll come back for more tips! LOL!
Amberr Meadows
March 14, 2012
LOL. Loved it. I can’t wait for my kid to get to middle school for the dance. I had to share this one on FB, too. By the way, love the new look!
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
March 14, 2012
Thanks for sharing it, Amberr!
lovethebadguy
March 15, 2012
Heh heh. Fun times ahead! Right now, my niece is far too young for such things. If you aren’t embarrased by the fact that you’re sucking your own foot, then nothing else is going to make you blush.
But one day… Heh heh heh! *lightning flashes*
dcmcmillen
March 15, 2012
Thank you for the excellent tips! You have definitely cleared up my confusion.
Mokhalil01
October 19, 2013
My childhood in a blog…