Welcome to this week’s installment of WTF Wednesday, where our advice is made with 100% real ingredients in mind.
Today’s question comes to us via the magic of Google’s Let’s Track Every Move People Make On The Internet program. Earlier this week a thoughtful child found I’ve Become My Parents by typing this question into Google:
What are 4 things parents need from their children?
Well, Google certainly sent you to the right place. But then Google does have a dark sense of humour.
I got a question a few weeks back that I think is relevant here: “Why are my parents suddenly being nice to me?” I know what you’re thinking: it’s because they want something from you, right? Wrong. Think about it: we always want something from you yet we are rarely actually nice to you. If your parents are suddenly being nice to you it’s because they’re afraid of something. That’s totally different and will no doubt be the subject of a future post.
So what do we want?
Ask anybody’s child and you’ll quickly learn that there are many more than four things that parents want from their children. Oddly enough, the list of things parents don’t want is equally long. Someone should ask me that question some time because I think it would lead to a quite satisfying rant, and I could use the release.
To understand what your parents want, you need to understand the concept of unconditional love. We love you unconditionally. And we’ll keep loving you unconditionally as long as you give us what we want. So, in exchange for our unconditional love we expect the following four things:
- Money. Look, we didn’t work our asses off all our lives so we could retire broke. We did it out of unconditional love for our kids. And all we expect in return is that you’ll start sending us cheques on a monthly basis beginning the moment you finish high school (college if we’re feeling particularly patient, but we expect bigger cheques).
- Your unconditional love. Yes, we ask that you love us unconditionally as we do you. We expect that you’ll demonstrate that love by doing what we want, when and how we want it.
- We need you to quit your whining. “But Daddy, I just washed your car yesterday.” “Daddy, none of the other kids have to give their parents nightly foot massages.” Honestly, it gets old real fast.
- We need you to make up for all our shortcomings. This is one of the main reasons we have kids in the first place: we messed up and you’re our second chance. Find out what your parents sucked at and make sure you’re really good at it. My kid needs to kick ass at sports and I’d be totally thrilled if he dates college girls when he’s fifteen. All he really needs to do, though, is date any girl and he’s made up for a lot. If she actually knows she’s on a date and is happy about it, that would be even better.
Your parents love you very, very much, anonymous Google searching person. There is nothing more magical than a parent’s love for their child. Remember that and smile next time your arm’s down the toilet searching for Mom’s ring.
Problem solved. You’re welcome!
etherealidiosyncracies
February 1, 2012
Ha, ha! As a dad of 3 kids, I liked your humorous take on loving unconditionally. My favorite? #4, though I may have to wait a little longer: my eldest just turned 10 yrs old, and is too childish for his age to think of girls…sports maybe…likes to play soccer.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
You’ve got some time to help him develop nicely into the person you never were 😉
Thanks for stopping by!
Technogran
February 1, 2012
Loved this post!
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
Technogran, based on your username alone, I’m declaring you my honorary grandmother. Hope you don’t mind 🙂
BrainRants
February 1, 2012
How about: “Do what I say, not what I do?”
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
That should be the Golden Rule in our house!
Jacob Spire
February 1, 2012
Outrageous! 😀
“If your parents are suddenly being nice to you it’s because they’re afraid of something.”
That makes ME afraid.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
Sorry, Jacob. But if you can figure out what they’re afraid of, you can milk it for all it’s worth!
whatimeant2say
February 1, 2012
Great advice. I love that your blog was found by searching for 4 things parents need from their children. Not 3 or 5. But 4.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
I thought that was funny, too. Why only 4? That’s like asking for the 4 most important commandments or something…
muddledmom
February 1, 2012
“If she actually knows she’s on a date and is happy about it, that would be even better.” Hey, I think I’ve been on dates like that…and it was kind of creepy when I found out they were dates. Good stuff.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
You’ve just discovered the real reason I blog anonymously. That was probably a “date” with me. Sorry I told all my friends we made out under the bleachers…
Carla Armstrong
February 1, 2012
This is too funny!!
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
Thanks, Carla! Nice to have you stop by.
Bobbi Sheahan (@BobbiSheahan)
February 1, 2012
Can’t decide which I like better — the post itself or the idea of having WTF Wednesdays!
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
I’m cool if you like both equally. Just glad you’re reading! Thanks.
dallanmyers
February 1, 2012
WTF Wednesday, WTF does unconditional love mean? Lots of parents hate their kids.
Funny
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
It’s a good question. So do those parents hate their kids unconditionally or do they attach certain conditions to their hatred like, “My hate for you is unconditional and everlasting unless you start pooping in the toilet”?
kragenhai
February 1, 2012
Oddly enough, the list of things parents don’t want is equally long.
So, let’s be having that long list! What is it that parents don’t want?
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 1, 2012
Thank you for asking! I made a commitment that I would never make up WTF Wednesday questions but I didn’t say I’d never HINT that I want someone to ask one 😉
anntrea3
February 1, 2012
number 4 is so right on!!! my daughter was a super early reader which totally makes up for my dyslexia! I also enjoy being around my children’s beauty and youth now that I am getting old and ugly.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 2, 2012
Old and ugly? You wouldn’t know it by your avatar–you haven’t aged a day since I first saw you! Although, you may have tanned a bit–have you been out in the sun lately?
SzaboInSlowMo
February 2, 2012
Love it, and wish I had written it! This made me laugh. What’s more is you’ve written some great parental advice for our kids to find via Google! Bravo!
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 6, 2012
Yes, that’s my goal. Let the kids online see what we really want from them. Now if they’d only pay attention…
andraya
February 4, 2012
Haha, well my parents must always be afraid of me doing something because they’re usually nice to me. =)
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 6, 2012
You, my friend, have them wrapped around your little finger. Just try and use your powers for good instead of evil 😉
Naja
February 5, 2012
love your writing! Having kids is such an adventure, isn’t it?
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 6, 2012
Thanks, Naja! An adventure indeed. Sometimes I think I packed for an entirely different adventure, though! 🙂
nataliadesai
February 5, 2012
I love your sense of humor and how your child will read this one day and probably roll his eyes. Thank you for sharing your thought. I had a good and long laugh while reading this. Peace.
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 6, 2012
Glad you liked it. Oh, my son rolls his eyes plenty already, by the way! Thanks for popping by 🙂
Amberr Meadows
February 5, 2012
This was hilarious, but I am dead serious about #1 and #3. My kid is five. Too early to start with that? Hmmm…
Barmy Rootstock (IBMP)
February 6, 2012
Five’s the perfect age! Get him the kiddie version of Monopoly and tell him he gets no dinner if he doesn’t earn at least $100 for you. He’ll soon catch on. Oh, and it’s also the perfect age to get him used to the feel of duct tape around his mouth. Heehee….